
As you might expect, I watched the recent interview with the three jurors from the Clancy trial. An NBC 10 Boston reporter sat with them last week.
It wasn’t long into the interview that my stomach started to turn, if only because the three women seemed so much more concerned for the pathology of Lindsay’s crimes than the crime itself. For example, considering the sheer brutality of the murders, my heart sank when one of the three jurors, Kellie Farina, spoke disappointedly, almost condescendingly, of the lone juror (a black man now getting doxxed by the media) who refused to agree to a not-guilty verdict. She said, “He had the hardest time getting off the fact that Lindsay viciously killed her children.”
Of course, for the relatively sane among us, that seems to be the quotation getting all the attention. Go figure. It really is dreadfully backward.
And then, even with Farina’s comment still hovering like sulfuric fog, another of the three, Roni Carlson, said, “I wish we would’ve come through for Lindsay,” as if Lindsay truly was the victim during those terrible moments in the basement with the exercise bands pulled so tightly around each of her children’s throats that their necks pretty much collapsed.
But if I remember the order of things, I’d barely gotten to these comments before tasting the first bit of my stomach’s sour. Another of the three, Paula Devlin, described the resistant juror as “arrogant.” More precisely, she said, “He was very arrogant. He really did not take anything that anybody said.”
When I heard that, my first instinct was to open Facebook in my nearby laptop’s browser and start tapping into that little gray space beside my profile picture that reads, “What’s on your mind, Christopher?”
What’s on my mind, you ask?
Well, first, I typed out Devlin’s exact words for context. By the way, is it me, or is the name Devlin eerily ironic—as if hell’s ambassadors are just toying with us? It’s like the fiends, normally keeping to the shadows, aren’t as interested as they used to be in hiding their identity. It sort of reminds me of the antagonist in the ’80s film Angel Heart. Literally Satan, he went by the name Louis Cyphre. Get it? Yeah, Lucifer. “Devlin” looks and sounds like something you’d see on Satan’s license plate when he’s out and around doing what he does.
Deviling. Dev’lin’. I wonder.
Anyway, after sharing Devlin’s words, I continued with a short bit of commentary. I wrote something like, “Arrogant? He held fast and wouldn’t surrender the case’s essential truth, which is that three children were murdered.” I ended with, “Courage looks an awful lot like arrogance from the devil’s side of the room.”
Now, you’ll notice above that I used the words “with something like.” That’s because I was only remembering what I wrote. If you scroll through my personal page, you won’t find the comment anywhere. I didn’t post it. As soon as I wrote it, I deleted it and closed my laptop.
Why?
Well, the day before I watched the interview, I shared a short piece on my personal page about needing a break from observing, analyzing, and commenting on these kinds of things. I admitted that even with my practice of posting and ghosting—which means I write something and then leave it behind, avoiding all comments entirely—the ugliness still finds a way through. Believe it or not, people read what I write, and no matter what it’s about, someone almost always seeks me out just to insult me. They find my email. They use Private Messenger. Some have even chased down my cell phone to text me. The twisted devotion in all this is rather astounding.
Of course, I’ve long understood that both praise and hatred are swirling in this territory. People who write for public consumption should expect both positive and negative reactions. But that doesn’t make any of it any less tiresome, especially since it’s not like I get paid to do it. Maybe if I made a few bucks here and there, it would be easier. But I don’t.
That said, and perhaps more importantly, I wrote in that short piece that no human being is meant to be pierced with hatefulness so frequently. I understand that life’s occasional conflicts can lead to hostile words. I mean, things happen, and unkind words are spoken. But I’m pretty sure none of us are designed to be verbally accosted multiple times a week all year-round. And for over a decade and a half, which is about how long I’ve been doing this.
I know this might sound like whining to some. I’m just telling you this has become my “normal.” And some days, it’s just too much.
Add to all this that it’s not as easy as it used to be. I’m having some trouble with my eyesight, which is making everything you’re reading right now so much more difficult to produce. What used to be relatively easy to tippety-tap onto the screen is becoming considerably harder. Sermons take longer. Preparations for almost anything I do as a pastor take longer. This takes longer. I used to just wake up on Sundays and start writing these things. I started this one on Friday and finished it this morning.
But enough whining. Although what I’m describing explains what happened immediately after I deleted the comment and closed the laptop. Instead of writing something, I finished listening to what remained of the half-hour interview clip, and then I picked up my daughter’s guitar, which was leaning against the back of a chair nearby, and started playing.
It’s an interesting guitar, actually. Evelyn found it lying on the side of the road not far from the high school last autumn. It was pretty beat up. The strings had snapped. A few tuning pegs were missing. It was cracked in places—punctured and scarred from whatever had happened to it before she found it. Nothing about its condition suggested it had any particular value anymore.
Still, she brought it home, and we tried to find its owner. We posted about it in different forums and waited to see whether someone would claim it. No one did. After a couple of weeks of waiting, with a mind to get rid of it, I eventually took it outside and leaned it against the trash can.
The next day, before rolling the cans to the street, I reconsidered and carried it back inside. I ended up spending some time over the Thanksgiving weekend doing what I could to repair it physically. I fixed the cracks and sanded the body. Eventually I painted it black. I replaced the tuning pegs and even added a rosette around the sound hole, with a new pickguard beneath. Essentially, I worked through everything that needed attention until the ugly guitar destined for a landfill—something somebody lost, or deliberately tossed on the side of the road—became an instrument again.
Admittedly, it struggles somewhat to keep a tune. But it’s been through a lot. And I’m certain it was likely never a virtuoso’s choice to begin with. Still, after some love, it’s singing again. And it’s really quite lovely.
I reached for that guitar after I closed the laptop. In fact, because Jennifer was away for the weekend in Rogers City, and I knew she’d be coming home soon, I decided to spend the next few hours listening to and working through a few Zach Bryan songs to play for her when she got back. She and Evelyn are both huge fans. So, I spent a little time strumming along and whispering lyrics, at least until my fingers, mouth, and memory began cooperating with each other.
There was something wonderfully refreshing about it. I wasn’t analyzing another ugly thing happening somewhere in the world, all the while anticipating the responses I’d almost certainly get from ratchety folks, whether actively or passive-aggressively, offended that I think Clancy deserves a millstone rather than a diagnosis. Listening and strumming and half-singing, I wasn’t wondering which stranger would eventually hunt down my contact information or find their way into my private messages. I was sitting with something I’d restored, learning songs for someone I love more than anything else in the whole world.
When Jen got home, after visiting for a while, I grabbed the once-broken guitar and played a few of her favorite songs. Evelyn, who’d just gotten home from volleyball practice—and who adores such moments—joined us. She even pulled out her phone and set it beside me to record a few, memorializing the moment for herself. One song they wanted to hear, “I Remember Everything,” I didn’t know it particularly well, so I wasn’t especially confident about how it would go. Strangely enough, it turned out pretty nicely. I suppose the thing about guitarists is that once a song gets going, often you can anticipate the next chord and fall right into it.
Now, with all of this in mind, looking backward to remember that humans aren’t meant to experience loathing in steady streams, I’m even more committed to the premise. I also think that escaping the ugliness requires more than closing the laptop and refusing to look at the screen for a while. Ultimately, the space left open has to be filled with something good and beautiful.
It’s true there will always be another cultural event to dissect. There will always be another “something” begging for commentary rendered through the Gospel’s lens—which means I will undoubtedly end up back in the saddle, likely sooner than later. Indeed, certain things deserve to be said, and there are times when silence carries a much heavier cost than the hatred I know I’ll receive.
Still, there’s something worth remembering about those moments with the guitar. I could’ve spent those hours immersed in another of this world’s messes, writing about one more broken thing that too many others seem hesitant to approach. I chose instead to take something that had already been broken—something I had repaired with my own hands—and I used it to make music for my wife, and I suppose my daughter, also.
I guess what I’m saying is that, yes, sometimes we should speak about ugly things. Some moments require someone to say what’s being left unsaid. But maybe there are also those moments when the better answer to a wrecked world is to just turn off the screen, pick up something broken, and make it beautiful again.
If you want to hear a couple of those moments, I’m happy to share. Evelyn texted me two of the recordings she made. Again, she set her phone right next to me, so the guitar you’re hearing is the one in my hands—the one left for dead on the side of the road, but now beautiful.
I uploaded the recordings. You can listen to them here.
https://cruciformstuff.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/sito-thoma.mp3
https://cruciformstuff.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/ire-thoma.mp3








